He was coming from the office and he looked sharp in his suit. When he showed up at my office and told me where he was taking me for dinner,I was secretly impressed with his choice of venue for the dinner reservation. I had been thinking of trying the same restaurant for a long time but I was holding out for a special occasion. It looked particularly warm and inviting from the outside this evening.In all, it looked like an environment where love would blossom or at least a conversation about love would.
Before I could come up with my mundane questions he with a straight face,"Every person comes with the realization that we are all flawed and so are our motives".I wondered where is the conversation heading to.. he adds "I have much of an impulse control,trust me if I don’t like you, you would know.Hell!! you would be sitting in car by the time I finish eating". Inquisitive me asked "What is your motive behind this dinner??" He replies "Write about me!!". "But I don't know you that well..","You know me enough".No the previous line was never said,In my mind I summed it up.
After dinner a nagging feeling crept in.His love story is not even a great one why should it go to my blog.I see,hear,analyze so many relationships around me everyday but here I am writing about him today,reason you would know soon.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to go on autopilot. You get up in the morning still
reeling with the last night conversations, go to work, and don’t take out time to have fun. You forget why you’re together in the first place but end up talking every night because without that your day is incomplete. His relationship was no different. There had been a lot of yelling, but a lot of back rubs as well but somewhere it was not perfect. He knew it at the onset.
You see a woodcutter trying to hack a stubborn tree desperately hoping that hours and hours of effort he puts in bringing the tree down will finally pay off.This is the essence of the Wood Cutting Strategy.The Wood Cutting Strategy is when a guy (diligent and hopeful),finds a girl (stubborn and unyielding) and starts chopping her like a tree hoping, praying, wishing that one day she will “fall” deeply in love with him and eventually say yes to his marriage proposal.Friends being the only spectators, it is one of the most painful experiences that you get to see.
There is this twisted idea the guys believe in if guys pursue someone that they like diligently enough, eventually that girl will collapse under the barrage of his “love”.I don't know how this idea came into practice but something about it tells me its surreal.Sooner or later the girl might concede but it will always be a lopsided affair.Wouldn't you want a person who likes you close to how much you like her.A guy who has been chopping away fruitlessly until now affirms his obsession,but honestly wouldn't this mean the girl will never like him as much as he does to her.Some girls might think its a good thing but in my opinion somewhere in the back of the mind it will always hit you,the regret birds will soon start chirping and thoughts like "Should have married Bhushan, he is a doctor now" (Yep! girls are that weird) will become a daily reality.
It bothers me to see a person so devoted to a singular cause and a lost one too.As well-wishers we can give amazing advises full of wisdom directly out of a book written by Confucius but are we good enough at taking one. "Dude, you really think you can have a future with her? Can you even convince yourself let alone your parents?" A friend whom you had offered few words of wisdom few months later ends up with another person who is much more broken than the previous one.Problem with being in a relationship is people just don't listen,its funny how we 'tell' someone to stop liking the other person its easy because we are not the one liking a person.
No amount of ice-cream,chocolate or even booze will console you, end the drama and seek the attention in a constructive way.If you were your own friend,what advice would you give yourself?Think about it..
You must be wondering where did the love story of my friend go.The thing is..He is 30, effectively single.In pursuit of a girl whom he'll love as dearly as he loves his beer and on a different note he has signed up on Jeevansaathi :D
Are you really in love or are you in love with the idea of being in love?
Before I could come up with my mundane questions he with a straight face,"Every person comes with the realization that we are all flawed and so are our motives".I wondered where is the conversation heading to.. he adds "I have much of an impulse control,trust me if I don’t like you, you would know.Hell!! you would be sitting in car by the time I finish eating". Inquisitive me asked "What is your motive behind this dinner??" He replies "Write about me!!". "But I don't know you that well..","You know me enough".No the previous line was never said,In my mind I summed it up.
After dinner a nagging feeling crept in.His love story is not even a great one why should it go to my blog.I see,hear,analyze so many relationships around me everyday but here I am writing about him today,reason you would know soon.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to go on autopilot. You get up in the morning still
reeling with the last night conversations, go to work, and don’t take out time to have fun. You forget why you’re together in the first place but end up talking every night because without that your day is incomplete. His relationship was no different. There had been a lot of yelling, but a lot of back rubs as well but somewhere it was not perfect. He knew it at the onset.
You see a woodcutter trying to hack a stubborn tree desperately hoping that hours and hours of effort he puts in bringing the tree down will finally pay off.This is the essence of the Wood Cutting Strategy.The Wood Cutting Strategy is when a guy (diligent and hopeful),finds a girl (stubborn and unyielding) and starts chopping her like a tree hoping, praying, wishing that one day she will “fall” deeply in love with him and eventually say yes to his marriage proposal.Friends being the only spectators, it is one of the most painful experiences that you get to see.
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It bothers me to see a person so devoted to a singular cause and a lost one too.As well-wishers we can give amazing advises full of wisdom directly out of a book written by Confucius but are we good enough at taking one. "Dude, you really think you can have a future with her? Can you even convince yourself let alone your parents?" A friend whom you had offered few words of wisdom few months later ends up with another person who is much more broken than the previous one.Problem with being in a relationship is people just don't listen,its funny how we 'tell' someone to stop liking the other person its easy because we are not the one liking a person.
No amount of ice-cream,chocolate or even booze will console you, end the drama and seek the attention in a constructive way.If you were your own friend,what advice would you give yourself?Think about it..
You must be wondering where did the love story of my friend go.The thing is..He is 30, effectively single.In pursuit of a girl whom he'll love as dearly as he loves his beer and on a different note he has signed up on Jeevansaathi :D
Are you really in love or are you in love with the idea of being in love?
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